Monday, April 20, 2009

What You Feel Only Matters To You...

Sometimes I feel like everything in life comes down to this quote. Taken from the movie, "The Last Kiss"...

"What you feel only matters to you, it's what you do to the people you say you love."

To bring a little light into the quote, the context of this compared to the movie was that a guy almost in his 30's cheated on his pregnant girlfriend because he feared there would be no more surprises in his life. Okay... major, major, major screw-up, right? And I just love that quote that the father of the girlfriend tells this man, played by Zach Braff. 

"I just met this little Brunette and I faltered. Haven't you ever faltered?"
"No, I haven't. I haven't met my last little Brunette and neither have you."

But I am not going with the subject of cheating but the many connotations that this quote can have.

Isn't it true we are all humans filled with good and bad qualities? Our conscience and sub-conscience often causes us to screw up. Our anger causes us to say things we normally wouldn't. Our sadness and confusions causes us to push people away when we really need them to be closer. And can't this quote relate to just about any situation when it comes to hurting other people's feelings? One may feel let-down or confused with life, but that never merits cheating. You might be particularly angry about a bad test or presentation, but should you really yell at your mom for something miniscule? 

When making decisions that will affect the feelings of someone else, which is generally often when making any decision, I try to think of this quote. What I feel is what I feel, it is within me and will only be released if I let it. While it is never good to bottle things up inside or lie to someone, this can mean talking things out instead of doing something you may regret. Or even having a white lie that may save someone a lot of heartache. You just simply must grow and mature and know the difference between a big lie that needs to be shared and one that will only hurt someone if revealed and is not necessary to reveal. I'll end this post with the whole quote from the movie because it adds a little something extra. In the end of everything, it is not your words that can make or break a relationship, but the actions behind those words. Never forget that.

"Stop talking about love. Every asshole in the world says he loves somebody. It means nothing. It still doesn't mean anything. What you feel only matters to you. It's what you do to the people you say you love, that's what matters. It's the only thing that counts." - The Last Kiss


  1. I was trying to remember the exact quote, so i googled the first part of it, "what you feel only matters to you..." and your site was the first thing that popped up on my search. I'm glad that there's at least one other person who finds this true and more than a little profound.

  2. Aw, thanks! Glad you stumbled across my blog and found it worthwhile. :)


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