Accepting I'll Never Understand Why People Leave

 

While at times I try to have a hard exterior, I am a very sensitive person. I over-think almost everything and tend to take things to heart. As life changes, friends change. I know this and accept it, but it is still extremely hard for me when friends suddenly, out of the blue, decide to leave. 

These pictures all help to ease the pain, but I will never forget these things. I often dream of friends who aren't my friends anymore. Waking up and realizing they didn't want me around anymore is a tough thing. Especially when you don't understand or know why. 

But sometimes friends just leave. People change and grow apart. Someone you want in your life may not want you in theirs, not for anything you did, but because they are moving on. I am still just trying to understand or trying to accept that I will never understand. I am thankful everyday for the friends I keep and for the people who never disappear from my life. I thank God every day for them.

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Fall Favorites...

Check out my guest post on Dancing in the Rain! Thank you Kendra for letting me share my fall favorites. I love your blog! :)

I Learned about EFT...

 As I've spoken about before, I tend to be a worrier and a nervous and anxious person. Sometimes I even get panic attacks, which can be extremely scary and embarrassing. So I'm always looking for ways to stay calm and relaxed and release the anxious parts of me.

Recently, I was able to learn about EFT (emotional freedom techniques). I had never really heard about this before, but it is a very popular method of relieving stress, anxiety, and all around bad feelings in a safe way. It definitely sounded like it was worth a try!

EFT is something you can do alone, by yourself, and you cannot do it wrong! You simply tap certain areas of your body (see picture below) and allow yourself to vent your feelings and in turn, give yourself positive affirmations.

I find that the positive affirmations are my favorite part. Here are some of my favorites:

• I am letting go of what I cannot change.
• The only thing I have control over is my thoughts, my behaviors and my actions.
• What other people think about me is none of my business.
• I can't always control the events in my life, but I can control my response.
• Even though I have this feeling, I completely love and accept myself.

What do you think? Have you ever tried EFT? Do you suffer from anxiety? I would love to get some comments on this!

To learn more, please visit Brenda's website (the lovely lady who took the time to teach me this).

Ever Tried BORBA?

A while ago, I discovered BORBA products and decided to order some of their items. If you've never heard of BORBA, it is a company that focuses on skin-care products and vitamins, all made in a unique way. Many celebrities endorse these products, so I thought I'd give them a try.

Here's what I ordered:

Age Defying 4-in-1 Cleansing Treatment - After doing some research on their website, this face cleanser seemed to be the biggest hit and was designed for twenty somethings. The 4-in-1 claims to moisturize, exfoliate, remove all makeup, and give you some age defying goodness. After using this for a while, I like it. I use a toner after my cleanser to remove all makeup and I've found it doesn't really remove everything, it still makes my face feel really smooth and not tight at all.
Mighty Energy Gummi Mice - I actually got a sample pack of these along with the box I ordered. Apparently six gummy mice equals an energy drink with no crash. I was really curious to try these because they have the same effect as coffee but with actual nutrients. Some people reviewed saying they tasted awful, so I was nervous to try them. I finally did yesterday and I must say they were gross. I could only get two of them down, so I don't really know how well they worked. I am not sure if I will even keep them because of the taste.
Smart & Sexy Omega-3 Bursts - I take these occasionally now, not every day since it only comes with 30 chews in a box. They have a decent taste, not at all fishy, which is what I was trying to avoid. I have been told that Omega-3 helps with anxiety, so I may take one of these next time I feel worried or anxious to see if it helps.
PMS Rescue Beverage Crystals - I haven't tried these yet but I sure hope they help with cramps and other PMS symptoms!
Age Defying Daily Hydrator SPF 30+ - This is the moisturizer that goes along with the cleanser. I would say it works pretty well, but I am curious to see how it holds up in the winter months as my skin tends to be extremely dry. It is a bit oily and separated when it comes out of the tube, but when you rub your hands together it solves this problem. I try to shake it a bit before use too.
Nutraceutical Lip Kix - My lips have been extremely dry lately and even cracking in the corners, so I decided to try their lip balm which comes out more like a gloss. The instructions say that you can only use twice in 12 hours (not sure why), so I only use this occasionally. It seems to help keep lips moisturized though.
Healthy Glow Immunity Drink Mix - I got this for free with my order but I haven't tried it yet. I hope it comes in handy in the winter months when everyone is getting sick.
All in all, I'm not 100% convinced with their products, but I think they are pretty good. They have drinks and other gummies and many products for skin care and health. I think I will definitely keep trying BORBA products. Please tell me, have you tried BORBA products? What did you try and what did you think of it? I would love to hear your thoughts and feedback!

Transition from Summer Beauty to Fall Fierceness in No Time

Summer beauty and makeup is all about less is more. You spend most of your time out in the sun and by the pool (if you're lucky!) where you don't need to wear a lot of makeup. We've all seen that girl that has a caked on face in 90 degree weather.... it ain't pretty. But what happens when the weather starts to cool and the leaves start to fall? You've got to change up your beauty routine.

1. For most of us, the fall and winter months cause dry skin havoc on our faces. Upgrade to a different, more heavy duty moisturizer to help combat dry patches on your face. Bonus points if it has SPF! A good idea for those with really dry skin: use a moisturizer after washing your face as well as a tinted moisturizer for covering up.

2. Brighten up tired eyes from late night studying sessions with a white or lilac eye pencil. Putting a little by your inner eye crease or your lower lid can make you look less... zombie.

3. Fall is the perfect time to retire your bright, bold nail colors (for now) and bring out the darker, more sophisticated hues. Paint your nails with a deep burgundy or red to match with the changing leaves.

4. Transition your eyes and lips to more appropriate tones for the weather. Trade bright pink or coral lips for deep red and dark pink. Swap bright and sunny shades on your eyes to the next big trend, metallics.

Tell me, what are your favorite ways to transition your makeup from summer to fall?

Life Gives Us Every Teacher

"Life always gives us exactly the teacher we need at every moment. This includes every mosquito, every misfortune, every red light, every traffic jam, every obnoxious boss (or employee), every illness, every loss, every moment of joy or depression, every addiction, every piece of garbage, every breath."
~ Charlotte Joko Beck via Echoes of Love 

I found this quote the other day from the Facebook page of a wonderful lady, Brenda Strausz. She often posts wonderful quotes and this one really struck with me. 

Often when a friend ignores me, I take a bad job, I'm stuck in a traffic jam when all I want to do is get home, or anything causes a sour mood; I am just plain aggravated. Why is this happening to me?

At times after a tragedy, when we've mourned or gotten angry and depressed, we can go back to see what the meaning was. We can understand why this had to happen in order to bring about something better. Sometimes we never understand. We may never understand the tragedies or just plain bad days we often encounter. But we can accept these days. We can accept that every mean boss, death of a loved one, cold, or mosquito bite is our teacher at that time. It teaches us to get what we really want, slow down and enjoy life, take better care of ourselves, or simply remember that darn bug spray. 

So next time you come across a situation where you want to give up and scream "Why me?", stop for a moment. Try to find the lesson or the reason. Some days you just have to accept that you don't know and that is okay. You'll get through it just fine, I promise.

When's The Last Time You Had a Rush?

First of all, I'm sorry for the radio silence this week so far. I've been so busy and haven't had time to write, but not to worry, I have some new posts rolling in soon. 

Have you ever had a down day where nothing seems to go right? Imagine you're at the library, cramming for that big test when all you want to do is sleep. Ah, sleep. You haven't had any of that in a while. You've been fighting with your best friend and this week just needs to end. Then you open up a book for research and find this little notecard inside...

It says, "I have not failed, I have just found 1,000 ways that haven't worked." - Thomas Edison

You flip it over and it says you've found a Love Note from Such a Rush and it tells you to keep the card or leave it somewhere new then head to their Facebook page to tell them where you put it.

Cute idea right? This was started by one of my best friend's friends/my new friend. :) I thought it was such an amazing idea. It would definitely put a smile on my face to find a Love Note with an inspirational quote on it instead of a gum wrapper on the ground.

Check out Such a Rush's Facebook page to learn more and get inspired. Be on the lookout and you just may find your own Love Note.

All I Can Do....

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Guest Post: Tips To Strengthen Your Long Distance Relationship

Relationships of any kind take a lot of hard work and patience. Being able to do so face to face is a huge plus, a plus that’s absent in long distance relationships. Distance can complicate small matters and lead to unnecessary heartache. Here are 25 tips on how you can work to maintain a healthy long distance relationship.

1. Agree on the relationship parameters: Right at the onset, both of you should understand the nature of your relationship and how much you are willing to sacrifice for each other. Are you prepared to relocate to be near your partner? Is this a mutually exclusive relationship or are you allowed to date others?
2. Set up communication channels and timeframes: When you’re away from each other, calling at random times might be inconvenient. Again, if your call is not received properly, it’ll give rise to suspicions. To avoid all this, set up daily or weekly calls.
3. Share everything: Being away from each other, you miss a great part of the daily camaraderie. Make it a point to share as much as possible about your daily lives, the people you meet and the things you do. This allows the other to feel as much a part of your life as possible.
4. Enjoy things together: Watch a TV show or movie at the same time, with the phone on so you can share your opinions and thoughts. Come up with creative ideas to ‘do’ things together, the way you would if you were living in the same place.
5. See each other often: Web cams are a great way of seeing the person you love. Set up web conferences; do not dress up for the web cam. Be natural, just as you would be if you were next to that person.
6. E-mail each other: Share news, forward jokes and send each other greetings for every occasion via email. Make an effort to make your emails warm, loving and detailed, to show you care.
7. Send gifts to each other: You don’t need an occasion; just send small gifts, books or flowers whenever you are able. Make it spontaneous!
8. Set up reminders: Use good reminder software to set up reminders of important dates. Include your partner’s special days, your special days as a couple and birthdays of your partners’ friends. Always remember to commemorate special days.
9. Don’t forget friends: Send cards or gifts to your partner’s friends on their birthdays; this extra effort will not go unnoticed.
10. Pursue common interests: Take up similar hobbies, or attend similar events in your individual cities. You can compare notes later and enjoy the shared camaraderie.
11. Find creative ways to bond: Join an online forum together, follow each other Twitter, and take up an online course together – you can come up endless creative ideas to bond.
12. Give and take space: Don’t hog each other’s time to the exclusion of other things, just to make up for the distance.
13. Don’t control each other: If you are both interested in being in the relationship, you’ll stick it out. Don’t control who each other can talk to, where each other can go and so on.
14. Challenge each other: The distance between you can motivate you to do things you’ve put off. If you or your partner was planning to lose weight or learn cooking, you can challenge and motivate each other to do it before you meet next.
15. Discuss your future: Talk about where you’re going to live and what you’re going to do when you’re finally together in one place. Working towards a common goal will keep you motivated.
16. Visit each other: If you don’t live too far apart, try to visit each other as often as possible. Even the best long distance relationships will fail if you see each other only once a year.
17. Be consistent: Be consistent when it comes to your visits, frequency of communication and so on. Spending a solid hour chatting one day and ignoring your partner for the next three days won’t help your relationship grow.
18. Trust your partner: Allow each other the trust any healthy relationship needs; keep the jealousy, drama and obsessive possessiveness away. Remember, Everyone is trustworthy unless proven otherwise.
19. Stay positive: Even if your partner did not return a call or did not keep up a commitment, stay positive within. Even the best laid plans can go awry sometimes.
20. Focus on yourself: Focus on your needs, career objectives and hobbies for self growth and to keep from obsessing over your partner.
21. Share personal items: Keep something that belongs to each other to hold on to when thinking of each other.
22. Prioritize each other: Even if there are other pressing obligations in your lives, prioritize each other when it comes to emergencies, or urgent situations.
23. Write letters: Buy some expensive stationery, scented if possible, and pen long, romantic letters to each other. These are the ones you can store and read when you’re old, tied up in blue ribbon.

This post is by Marina Chernyak, a freelance writer and co-owner of an online wall clock store located at - 1001WallClocks.com.

Reason, Season or Lifetime Friend?

Have you ever read this poem? My mom reminded me of it recently when I was having difficulties with a friend. She reminded me that friends will always come and go, mostly for reasons I cannot even comprehend. So today I will leave you with this wonderful poem about friendships and how people come into your life for different reasons, sometimes for a short time and sometimes forever. It really helps me to move on when friendships fail and I hope it helps you in some way too!

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown