Thursday, September 2, 2010

Facebook = Craving Attention?

Recently I had a friend tell me that she didn't feel like her Facebook status was worth anything unless someone 'liked it' or commented on it. Like it wasn't worth sharing unless it was deemed worthy by her peers. The worst part about this was... I've felt the same way. I've even deleted statuses or comments that no one commented on because it felt pointless.

What is it about social media that makes us want to share every little thing that happens to us? And then causes us to feel like it is pointless to post unless someone shares something else about what we posted?

Another friend told me that he gets no notifications on Facebook. He was going to start writing on everyone's walls and commenting, just so he gets more. I replied that I love notifications too and he said...doesn't everyone?

That's so true. I think all of this comes down to one thing. We all want love and crave attention. We want to be accepted by our peers and shown that we matter. Facebook is a platform for this.

While I don't think Facebook will go away any time soon and that it is a nice way to connect with your friends, show them you care about them, and feel some love in return...remember something else. Remember that you are amazing and you don't need to post every little thing that happens to you to make it real. You don't need a million notifications to be loved or accepted.

Also, check out this article about a similar topic from College Candy.


  1. Yeah, you're definitely right on the money with this. I guess I kind of got bored of posting status updates on Twitter and Facebook and stuff cause it just kind of seems really pointless and rarely do that anymore. I guess I mostly just use Facebook for keeping in contact with people that I don't see on a daily basis.

  2. great points and definitely true :)


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