Monday, November 7, 2011
Make Time for Friendships
1. Schedule friend time like you schedule your appointments. Even at your busiest, when you see something in your schedule or calendar, you know it has to be done. Sometimes, you may not feel like hanging out with friends when there are a million things to be done, but once you're there and having fun, you'll realize how much you needed that time to recharge.
2. Don't make blowing off someone a habit. Most people are pretty understanding if someone has to cancel a friend date because of work, illness, or an emergency. But if you make a habit of cancelling plans and blowing people off... unfortunately, you're sure to be friendless in no time.
3. Take the time to do nice things for your friends, even if they live far away and you don't see them often. Make sure you talk on the phone, Skype, send notes on Facebook, pay for lunch every once in a while... the little things that mean a lot in friendships.
4. Be available. Often times, you really need your friends when something happens. Be available via phone, text, whatever and drop everything if a friend really needs you.
5. Reevaluate friendships and realize everyone makes mistakes. You will get busy and put off calling that friend and your friends may do the same with you. Small problems can always get worked out. But big problems, like when you feel like your friend doesn't care about you anymore and they won't talk about it, it may be time to let go of that friendship. Trust your gut.
What are your tips for maintaining healthy friendships?